I want to get family portraits done this year. This is a small thing, but something I think about. I’ve sent out some inquiries to local photographers; I want to pay money and get professional portraits, and I have two kids with special needs. I need someone GOOD.
Here are my concerns:
1. It’s not easy to get T to smile, like EVER; he’s usually fairly unhappy when he’s around his family.
2. In response to T’s constant fighting with them, his sisters don’t particularly enjoy being around HIM.
3. Also, I get really tense when everyone is together; I’m waiting for a fight to break out and I have Risperdal or Haldol in my pocket. I’m certain the kids pick up on my anxiety.
So, what I’m trying to say is that I/we walk on eggshells to keep the small amount of peace. I try to keep everyone apart when I can. The kids sort of natural keep themselves apart. They don’t all enjoy each other or being together. There are certain things that trigger T; being part of a large family is one thing. And yet I want to capture our family.
Maybe it’s a bad idea? I don’t know. We haven’t done family pictures in over 4 years. All the pictures on my wall are old, from when S, who is about to turn 8, was a baby. I really want a beautiful family portrait. But maybe it’s not worth the stress. Maybe it’s disingenuous to capture our family together when we’re usually NOT together? Maybe I’m just overthinking this. I want to get family portraits.